Strength Without Cruelty
Everybody's recovering from something. In every family you got killers, healers, survivors, dealers, victims, beaters, heroes, cheats, honest ones, thieves, addicts, part-timers, and full-timers.
The sober ones who know they play every role. Special memories make you revisit each one.
Feel the life of that old fool, villain you play well enough for everyone to know. Trapped in moments of severe depression, regret, loss, shame-unsure if you want to break out and face another rebirth.
Then you remember your kids don’t care to know the monster you were.
Retract your claws. Kiss instead of bite. Talk instead of bark. Never tuck your tail tho; weak men don’t fare well.
The world can’t afford more cowards. Or Heroes dying for things that aren't worth it.
The Argument You’ll Never Win
Any of them.
Arguments are battles you swear you’ve won but always lose.
Grown men shouldn’t argue. Because grown men don’t argue into peace. We argue ourselves into rage. We don’t settle down through words thrown like fists; we escalate. Anger. Madness. Violence.
And the truth is, men don’t fight. Men kill. So why pretend that arguing is anything less than a slow bleed-out?
Arguments thrill fools. They’re a broke man’s favorite deal. Cheap power, expensive consequences.
Do you remember your favorite argument?
The one that ended the way you dreamed it:
where you walked away stronger,
where your relationship deepened,
where you got the apology you deserved,
where the loser felt respected instead of crushed.
Do you remember that?
Men skip arguments. Not out of fear, but out of mastery. We know how fast life can be taken, and how fast it can fall apart.
Peace is not won by proving points, it’s won by protecting your presence.
Rules of engagement for argument and conflict resolution:
Jay-Z said "A wise man doesn't argue with a fool, because bystanders won't know who's who.
Stop talking, breathe deep and think do I want to become the person I'm arguing with!
What argument are you still holding onto that cost you peace?
To All the Father's wondering "HOW THE FUCK DO I DO THIS"
My advice is, Just Don't Pull Out!
Pretending Not To Notice
The Cost of Misplaced Attention
Intrusions
Let them creep in-feelings, visions, desires to intrude. They interrupt what makes you unusual.
Loyal, honest to a fault. Now lies are jokes, and your partner feels strange when she mirrors the fake, chaotic world around you. Smiles rotted stuck from doing dirt, and deeds that don't include self-love.
Disasters
Thoughts loop like chaos in a “final destination” scenario. Neglect and society pressures twist our children into someone else.
Media shapes common slaves, all fighting to hold a place in a world that encourages desperation. You hide. You feel alone. Embarrassed to be seen outside the hate you live on. So, you miss hugging your children. You can’t feel joy in a smile. You can’t even love who shares your bed.
What made you so hurt?
If you feel weak using that word, now you know why hate makes people feel superior. Giving desire to end things that matter holds the life of your attention. And you act like all the hurt people and do all the hateful things we dare not mention.
Observe
Be careful how you walk through your day. The time is always the same. It’s just the behavior that changes.
Connection
Be observant in another's space. Read the lines on faces. They lead to depths where emotions are punished by selfish acts hoping for rewards you no longer feel worthy of.
Cycles
Some of us escape to move forward after loss, an excuse to hold love hostage, saying: “If you leave, you never loved me.” We attend to distractions, bottles, and routines that keep our world from breaking. It’s all that feels possible when scary dreams are lived publicly.
Neglect
You struggle to show up when it matters. That burning feeling in your stomach, like you've been poisoned. Food for thought, negativity and neglect starve what makes family special. Get your energy up. I never heard of anyone too tired to fuck up love until they're too old to give some.
Don't wait until your family's too tired of your old habits.
Is there such a thing as a healthy deficit of love?
Regret & Lost Time
Think about the ones who got away. Missing moments that matter instead of scattering energy on breasts, to avoid making more bastards.
Treat spending time as the benefit. It's the priceless insurance that pays lifetimes after you're missed. And along with a legacy of knowledge, wisdom and riches, good memories are a father's greatest gift.
Music I'm Enjoying
Ghostface Killah (his new album Supreme Clientele 2)
Book I'm still Reading
Tubal-Cain (The Ancient Masonic Blacksmith God)
Dad Joke
Did you butt dial me? I swear your booty is calling me.
To all the Father's wondering HOW THE FUCK DO I DO THIS?
My advice is "Just don't pull out!"
ON MY BLOCK
Stand firm to give yourself the best chance. Tall as the weeds, showing your home needs attention. That's what I will always try to give. Ain’t no handouts in this world. You're crippled if you're not useful. That's something men can never get used to.
Even when I'm angry, I won't subtract our years, spinning us in circles until my resolve hurts you.
And me. I'm strong enough to admit I'm scared. You reject my simple “be better” advice for a teeth-and-bone colliding with knuckle truth, knocking heads until they're hard enough to hope and pray for damage.
I'm a dreamer, lazy with ambition, like a youth who's hungry but sees imperfect help as negative. When I show positive is real, you dissect how I live.
I'm not always happy. The thought escaped me most of my life. Sometimes I'm at peace because I kept you from the streets.
My nightmare is seeing you stuck in front of the drug you've been attached to since a child-showing comedic pain for you to repeat. Then I remember things I hope you never will experience. The hills of powder I thought was sugar that ran through a gang of elders, parents, and relatives.
I listen to old music they used for a guide. They never escaped the MAZE and couldn't hold onto happy feelings escaping reality brought. My heart skips in shock at how close death feels, and I get energized because I don't want to run out of time.
You gotta live on. Build something new. Success is always close. I desire it, carry it, and help you find and hold more love than a busy father has in his last kiss, smile, or hug..
Music I'm Enjoying
Scarface (The Legendary Rapper)
Book I'm still Reading
Tubal-Cain (The Ancient Masonic Blacksmith God)
Dad Joke
Why did the snowman suddenly smile? He could see the snowblower coming.
To all the Father's wondering HOW THE FUCK DO I DO THIS?
My advice is "Just don't pull out!"
Baddie Energy
Art from Pinterest
Find a woman who separates you from dark spirits.
A woman who prays over you, whether out loud or in her mind. Her acts uplift when you want to end it. All for creating a kind, loving life out of the ingredients you provide. Damaged, raw, ripe, even what you thought was ruined.
On dope nights, bodies and temperatures rise from heightened senses that make her uncommon and part of every man's wish. She likes to dance. Just a little tipsy, hips swaying, so when she stumbles into your arms on purpose, she fits you into her sacred spaces...
Perfect.
She makes you think about Barry Bonds, how she juiced your bat and busted your balls. Teaching you to knock it out the park. She likes it rough, hard and comes at the perfect time.
Long hair, thick thighs, green eyes. From the state exotic trees kiss heaven. She makes you think about planning forever.
Even when there’s smoke her air helps you see and think clear.
Body built like she's designed to sculpt and handle the heavy seriousness of a man's world. She knows a real woman’s thought and touch makes it all worth living in.
Her energy is contagious. A realistic optimist with a thousand-yard stare, to see and dead the nonsense. Real and soft in all the places her man likes.
Solid in ways that keep family and love strong and stay on your mind all-life-long.
Lips that quench. Sweet like pineapple juice. Makes you thirsty for nature’s sweetest fruit.
Dedicated to My Wife
To all the Father's wondering "How The Fuck Do I Do This?"
My advice is Just Don't Pull Out!
Broke’N’ Trying to Shine
Image from Pinterest Pin on mono colour art
Where’s true power? In trauma, karma, present thoughts or feelings strong enough to overcome it all? Belief in a lie strong enough to seal fate like a coffin?
Sometimes you can’t tell if your luck’s running good or bad.
Ever feel your mind racing, heart pounding like danger’s sneaking up behind you? My Auntie once told me, “Remember who you never wanted to be.”
Being a good man is a prize-but you can’t be broke and a luxury at the same time.
For the laymen-always busy, hardworking, sacrificing. While your family zones-out with their favorite fun things or work without you in mind. Oblivious until they need something, then you have to stop what you're doing like you're committing a crime.
That means, being a good, trying man never feels like enough when you’re financially struggling.
When’s the last time your family stopped their distractions, focused on you, and asked: How are you doing? How was your day? What’s going on with you? Is there anything you need?
Or gave a little extra attention, even if it seemed annoying. Used some of their precious free time to breathe with you, reveal scars and help heal wounds.
It’s hard to see clearly when love don’t love here. Only smiling for the children. Speaking like the ratchets because they make drama attractive.
There’s a reason they’re alone.
Therapy is being honest. It’s learning not to hurt the one you want to get even with. It’s explaining your pain with a gangster’s kindness.
It always takes two. That means putting ego aside and coming together. Understanding that you are both, and at certain times, need to be individuals.
No one achieves personal success without the discipline and habit of healthy selfishness.
Unhealthy selfishness is knowing your needs aren’t being met and “stonewalling” someone until they fall apart. That'll make them jump into someone else’s arms, push you off, or both
In a relationship, you learn to know each other deeply. But you’ll always know yourself better.
Don’t allow lazy comfort to stop you from knowing and growing yourself and your relationship.
Music I'm Enjoying
Let God Sort Em Out (by Clipse)
Book I'm Reading
Tubal-Cain (The Ancient Masonic Blacksmith God)
Dad Joke
What type of deaf & blind person doesn't consider themselves disabled. Someone in love trying to see what it do! (Inspired by Tyler The Creator)
To all the Father's wondering HOW THE FUCK DO I DO THIS?
My advice is "Just don't pull out!"
On This Day
You'll wonder if you made the right choices because needs, requirements, blame, and responsibility last longer than your worst memory. You will be addicted to many things, the most important is getting better for the lives in your hands.
You'll wonder if your relationship is going under, knowing every woman is "a ho for someone." If yours isn't for you, the love and attraction is lost and gone. It's your fault, but not your choice. That doesn't matter to those involved; only your response does.
You'll understand being a man is masculine, and those who think differently envy your dick. "Culturally inappropriate" means you have appropriate sense to avoid trends. They keep people from being original and pretend to care about everything.
Living in peace will feel like a stretch, long as your erection. Everybody wants extra, cuz they forget real satisfaction doesn't require attention but swear being a fucking problem is real affection.
You'll get a whiff that will make your stomach turn oil. You'll want to spit rage, but you keep composed so the children don't get burned.
The father is a protector, overlooked as a hero.
You'll be asked and expected to help, and seen as needy and weak when you ask for yourself.
You'll see influence taken from those who can't keep a family or love satisfied. A community of lonely hearts guided by lies, "free spirits" portray as true. They'll say being alone is liberating and God's way to survive.
Ghosting is death to your present, not revenge on love you regret.
Music I'm Enjoying
A.O.N. 3: DESPITE MY MISTAKES by Lloyd Banks
Book I'm Reading
My Own
Book I'm Studying/Revisiting
My Own
Dad Joke
Why can't miss piggy count to 70?
At 69 she gets a frog in her throat.
To all the Father's wondering HOW THE FUCK DO I DO THIS?
My advice is "Just don't pull out!"
Ups & Downs
Art by Instagram Digital Artist Taudalpoi
The pain of when you see it slipping, and you hold on by fighting yourself to let go. It's easy to get into some shit. Just go a few days without cleaning your damage.
Never regret how you were raised.
I'm from the ghetto. It made me rich and wise. The poor learn early and lasting lessons to build their God strength. Weak men use it like a switch to beat themselves with excuses, holding rank among men who love running the trap.
She used to laugh at the dumb jokes. Now she looks at you with disgust, like you're stupid and ruined her luck with men whose best offer is lust. That means you ain't aging well. Sick as a bad mind, morals, and sex that smells like oil instead of water, ruining your desire.
Once woke you up with the bob and weave. Bodies hit the mat, soon as she wrapped you with her hands and lips. Pulling you down between welcoming hips, keeping you up to speed, and draining youth every time you drop your seed.
That pressure weighs a ton, more than the weight of a parent's bod. Stress from overtime makes you feel like regular hours and relaxing with family is a crime. When reality becomes a distraction and anger is the escape that keeps your attraction.
Up every morning, balancing morals, to see which is gonna pay more: honesty or thievery.
Truth comes with lies.
Life is a business of inches, measuring whose pain you're willing to deal with.
Music I'm Enjoying
Scarface
Books I'm Reading (The Holy Ones)
From Niggaz to Gods.
Dad Joke
How do you know if your lady is turning into a NUN?
Nun today. Nun tonight. Nun tomorrow. Nun for a while.
To all the Father's wondering... "HOW THE FUCK DO I DO THIS?"
My advice is "Just don't pull out!
Raw Dog
Image from Pinterest image inspiration on Designspiration
We all have a set of tools to push and craft an admirable life to be left over after we pass.
Here... Now... looking at legs you want to get between, is when you will feel the most young and carefree. The way life is supposed to be.
Growing into an elder state where you have control and become disciplined to let your one and only snatch your soul.
Establish an understanding of self. Know who and what you can't be around.
My version of can't means you refuse to be mis-led by temptation, swayed by the waist of being in love with simple shit like fucking up your life thinking with your dick.
Relationships are fucked now a days because your love comes more for words from a stranger's influence. Instead of thinking for themselves or together with the one they claim to want to be with, they're stripped of intelligence.
Spending more building relationships with strangers than keeping the interest in their foundation relevant. Old conversation, old sex, dead from boredom you chose not to fix.
Then you pretend to be shocked when the relationship is over. Nobody admits they ignored the danger.
In world full of enticing choices, there's only one answer that works.
To all the Father's wondering "HOW THE FUCK DO I DO THIS!" My advice is Just Don't Pull Out.
IDENTITY
Art from Pinterest
I didn’t grow up with anyone who had a father in their home. The males who showed spirit were monsters of abuse.
When you see the worst of someone, at times you want to prove there's something better. You also learn what men and women are capable of: how to bend them to your will, and what they are willing to give and accept.
Fathers have to be active. You represent an example of everything your children strive for or avoid.
Men think they are the gods who create life, so you must have the consciousness to walk a path that builds and strengthens your purpose, intelligence, and bank account, more than your body count. Loose women cost you everything. Their only stable benefit is changing their mind to get ahead. And all it does is drain you.
What Being a Father Truly Means
They say any man can get some pussy and make a life. Being a father is more than just a title. It's a commandment. It's a dedication to raise a world that turns struggles into blessings and grows during life's normal and disturbing turns.
It means being able to provide safety, love, communication, awareness, acceptance, love, pain, loyalty, honesty, riches, wealth, health, and a place to listen.
Building minds that will last.
And... Providing a calm love that doesn’t need performance.
Values, Strength & Foundation
When we choose to be thoughtful fathers, we choose the values we want to embody. Your reactions should strengthen your family's character, not make them regret they involved you or showed proof of struggle.
Fatherhood can feel like you're going through puberty every night, overcoming the stresses we carry home, cracking the foundation we work hard to build. Stand firm. Be your own master.
Following the trend of influence will make you live the blues. That ain't the peace a man closes his eyes and hopes for. A man without a mind and discipline of his own won't be able to stand on his, and his family will fall for anything. We are presented with an overwhelming amount of goals to chase: bodies and bank accounts to copy.
Now I see why modest grandmothers were the original wonder women. Why men want homemakers, to raise good humans. Sadly, now, fucking reckless makes you popular and is somehow the definition of what a strong woman ought to be.
I was raised that a woman who was easy to pop meant she was never the one to be with. Her mind contains the secrets of a fallen demon, tricking you to believe she is heaven's lost secret.
A woman with a lot of bodies is like sleeping with a corpse; her bedroom is a morgue. Styles she laid to rest to style the man who will be laid next. Bodies and minds change. When you transition from absent to paying attention, it always feels too late. You lose sight of reasons for mistakes and own excuses instead of responsibility.
Listen and observe the identity shift in your woman. When her focus turns to interaction with objects she should use when alone, it’s time to change or move on.
Keep your lust locked on the one you're with. It will feel impossible when focus shifts to the children because you forget the baby you chose to create with.
Music I'm Enjoying
Kipp Stone
Books I'm Reading (The Holy Ones)
From Niggaz to Gods.
Dad Joke
What has two butts and kills people? An assassin!
To all the Father's wondering HOW THE FUCK DO I DO THIS?
My advice is "Just don't pull out!
Strictly for Livemen
I used to say karma was for weak men who were Afraid to do what was necessary.
That was when I started crossing gods line. And why I believe children shouldn't be conceived by certain men. Human animals stay hungry for the good, bad, strong and weak. Nourishment for the ego. Too much beef makes you undesirable and unhealthy.
Pick the right fight.
When your soreness ends and bruises heal, you'll feel light as forgiveness.
Turn away from dark roads of lies. With dull hot lights. Covered in slick talk, exotic as an empty city street. The ones that look like a painting and feel like the night of all nights, when you were lonely, in love, lost, and creeping for a different life, when the gates opened to what you were searching for.
You can't turn back Karma.
You can turn away from breaking lives and love apart.
Father's!
Have a heart that keeps you good in this and the afterlife
Music I'm Enjoying
Buju Banton
Books I'm Reading (The Holy Ones)
The Holy Quran
&
The Holy Bible.
Dad Joke
It's okay if your phone autocorrects "fuck to duck". You're still using fowl language.
To all the Father's wondering HOW THE FUCK DO I DO THIS?
My advice is "Just don't pull out!
ACT YOUR AGE
Image from the movie Cooley High (1975)
Take it easy on your graduates. They have enough pressure figuring out a world that's not prepared for them
Made it to eighteen!
That's the American dream, if you're lucky enough to survive the cycle. Repeat days, learning from and about people who don't care about you. Talking to people feels like a fire alarm is going off in my brain. Like someone pulled the trigger on a starter pistol. My mind and tongue are off somewhere stumbling through the message my so-called "wise" parents passed on.
I think about being a parent myself. Would I keep a youthful desire to be the best at everything? Or think trying that hard makes you fall short. It's a costly disappointment, and you don't even see yourself passing it on. Maybe you were too busy running from your own past to keep up with what your kids really wanted.
So, you gave what you felt they needed.
You needed to hurt someone, like a man ready to get bread by any means necessary, when birth of new bills bought a reckoning. Being both destructive and constructive. Saying sorry felt like begging for forgiveness. A wasted plea in a world that only forgives the worst and moves faster than a cheater afraid to face the pain he spread.
We accept distractions like abuse, saying we hate it, then run back because it seduces us to say, "right now I'm glad I didn't make it." Whips us worse than an addict.
I still think about what I didn't accomplish. That doesn't mean I can't, but the doubt from believing those words became the blueprint for roads not taken. For potential I trained my slow-moving carefree self to run from. Playing more than I slept, until sleeping was my only commitment. And procrastination was my favorite game to master.
My age is mature rage. I hold my pain. I implode. I ruin. I rebuild. Showing ownership and responsibility is worthless, now a days anyways. Everything and everyone’s for sale.
Fuck. Fuck. Fucking shit. Fuuuuuuuuck.
Damn.
This is why they say men act like boys. My Nana used to say, "The older men get, the dumber they act." That's also because women jump on their backs for the biggest nuts.
My childhood is gone. I wish I could go back. Make some changes. Quick. Take some things more serious. School, my grades, lessons from my annoying parents. Maybe read a little more, because this angry know-it-all thing doesn’t really help me against calm adults who know better and use their anger in silence to focus and produce results.
They say, that's the business of wisemen.
I want to go back because I would spend more time among them. Those were the people I wished were my parents.
Now it's up to me. All I have to compare is broke behavior, and suddenly, I'm a teenage savior. Supposed to create a miracle life. Be super at things I was never taught—mostly because I ignored lectures about things from people I thought I would naturally be better than. Adults seem so boring. Part time users. Full time workers, successful at never moving past what’s blocking them.
OK world. Here I come.
Here’s my positive anecdote for facing the unknown.
Keep dreaming. Use ambition to get your days right, so the only nightmare left is returning to your former life.
To all the Father's wondering "HOW THE FUCK DO I DO THIS?"
My advice is Just Don't Pull Out!
All The Smoke
We all have a set of tools to push and craft an admirable life to be left over after we pass. Here now is young and carefree, the way life is supposed to be. Growing into elder states helps disciplined men become established. An understanding of self-helps wishes live.
Know who and what you can't be around.
Stop trying to fit into places and people who you already know will cut your life short, the ones who see you last and need your attention first. You have to think you're special before and after you fail. That lesson will prove you are worthy to rebuild.
Keeps your head and eyes above.
Light your awareness, so you won't be covered by lust. It's the eclipse when men and women start looking wrong. Dark times happen all day when you work out the wrong muscle. Men just afford to be bitches! Observe your surroundings. Inhale the wrong energy and the only time you'll rise above is when you're seduced by lies. That's the wrong way to take a stand.
The only time a man should use and accept the word can't is when he talks about being misled by temptation, swayed by the waist of being in love with simple shit, fucking up your life, thinking with the head that prefers to be held by lips-talking loose to make love sink family treasures.
Music I'm Enjoying
Lefty Gunplay & Jason Martin's album (Can't Get Right)
Book I'm Reading
The BIBLE
Book I'm Studying/Revisiting
Nigger by Dick Gregory
Dad Joke
What does a robot do after a one-night stand?
He nuts and bolts.
To all the Father's wondering HOW THE FUCK DO I DO THIS?
My advice is "Just don't pull out!"
STRONG HAND
Welcome to the Fatherhood Experiment.
If you want to discover the worth you carry-read below!
Strong hand. What are you basing your worth on? Women, money. The signs of life to come are memorialized in your hand and what you hold in your mind.
Before you make a move, size up every option. Make peace or argue how relationships will decease. It all revolves around the law of prosperity.
You can allow the sun to benefit or burn; the stars to navigate, or align yourself with darkness for the point of no return. The offspring of Moonlight that keeps you balanced. Laying beautiful bodies diagonal to reproduce or cut off futures.
What do you see in yours?
I have a vivid imagination. I often see the worst. Negativity brings unfortunate manifestations. Now that I'm halfway to the other side, and my kids are near grown, trying to live lives they want, different than what I could afford, that can break the most decent man.
I AM more than that because I provide consistent returns to know and improve their worth.
Music I'm Enjoying
Nas - The lost Tapes
Book I'm Reading
The BIBLE
Book I'm Studying
Quotes by William James
Dad Joke
What's the difference between light and hard?
It's easier to fall asleep with a light on.
To all the Father's wondering HOW THE FUCK DO I DO THIS?
My advice is "Just don't pull out!"
OPEN SOURCE
Everything shouldn't be accessible.
The popular theme is...
Teenage boys are in trouble! Losing their minds! Need help! Nobody understands why.
We have to stop pretending we don't know or see the problem.
Do you listen to your kids when they open their mouth, about themselves, their siblings, and their videogame frenemies. Negativity is the main source of language. Insults and threats pass as brotherly love.
Jokes are a test to see what people can get away with.
And what about the girls!
Sexual independence and improving looks at the cost of self-love. Is it empowerment or prostitution?
Competing for dogs makes them want to ravage, and that leaves everyone in a fucked-up position.
Are you aware of the influencers your kids watch? Parents and everything they allow are the main ones.
Everyone's looking in the black mirror. Death and the end of wholesome relationships are always near. Clear as acne from a man cleansing his stress through flesh of a woman who ain't his. Or a woman holding progress hostage. Showing dis-approval for any change she doesn't influence or control.
Every cell in their bodies searches for a better life but won't release the dirt kept in that special place in their mind.
You shouldn't be open to everything or everyone. When you have too many options, people start to believe they can control the worst ones.
People think being liked is accomplished by accepting all standards. You can't let the world control your morals for status. It changes from seeing the light to living in darkness every few hours.
Music I'm Enjoying
Kevin Gates (song and album called Ceremony)
Books I'm Reading
The BIBLE
Dad Joke
What do you get when you jingle a man's balls?
A white Christmas.
To all the Father's wondering HOW THE FUCK DO I DO THIS?
My advice is "Just don't pull out!"
STRONG MEN. Weak Moments.
You are a legacy of a-lot of things going right, even though it feels like so many things are going wrong.
You live forever through your children. Help them exceed the vision of being held captive. Thinking they aren't good enough because of your doubts, echoing society's shouts. Believing they aren't great because they didn't start that way. So, they half ass consistency, sprinting with the baggage from a father's past they're cheered on to carry. Running and hustling for a sport they don't care for, so they drop lower in life like the posture of a fiend.
A strong man's weak moments are letting his children live in his disappointment because they didn't live up to his expectations. Children have their own lives they need to discover and craft. Children are the most beautiful, precious art. Weak moments turn masterpieces into frauds.
A strong man's weak moments allow negative thoughts to create similar outcomes for interactions that should lead and end with love and positivity.
Being real about how you feel will help strengthen the approach to healing. Yes! Children encourage the rage, but parents feed the monster when they refuse to see their child's perspective.
Children will struggle to see their parent's perspective because they aren't adults. They don't understand permanent consequences of avoiding a responsibility to feel free.
A strong man's weak moment is believing sacrifice means giving up what he wants forever and holding a grudge. This means he can't receive or hold on to things that make him happy and necessary for the lives he is supposed to lead.
A strongman remembers his weak moments and is conscious of how he raises his. Teaching kids' strategic violence is what men respect and women want under covers more than a gentleman.
Strongmen remember they don't have to get high during weak moments to see the world is theirs. They know salary is a key, but knowledge, integrity and healthy relationships unlocks their destiny.
Music I'm Enjoying
Nas , Damien "Jr. Gong" Marley album (DISTANT RELATIVES)
Books I'm Reading
Confessions of Nat Turner
Dad Joke
How did the Burger king get the Dairy Queen pregnant?
He forgot to wrap his whopper.
To all the Father's wondering HOW THE FUCK DO I DO THIS?
My advice is "Just don't pull out!"
HELP
Image from Pinterest https://www.pinterest.com/pin/195343702579857672/
We want all the help in the world, but we don’t want the world to know we need help.
This week I interviewed Veterans, Businessmen, Businesswomen Recovering addicts.
I asked 3 questions.
What do you need help with most in the relationship (of your choice)?
If they were parents, how did their upbringing influence the way they parent.
How did their upbringing impact their life's successes and failures?
Understanding how to give love properly was the resounding answer.
Understanding how to receive love was the resounding concern.
Giving Love
Careful consideration matters.
Love should never feel like a hand me down. One size doesn’t fit all.
Children shouldn’t feel they need to become worthy of love, hoping it doesn’t change from moment to moment, depending on puberty, maturity, or how good or bad the parent's day was.
This creates a feeling of never being enough, and unable to recognize happiness or enjoy life’s rewards. When you have to find reasons to continue living and trying, you grew up with a disappointment that was exhausting. It never sleeps. It makes you want to blaze your dreams and signals an institutionalized mentality.
Out of sight and out of mind makes everyone feel dead inside.
Don't try to repair memories. Create new and better moments that will be enjoyed by your family.
Understanding How To Receive Love.
It comes with forgiveness. Working through pain and hurt you feel you allowed.
Listen to your senses. If family is creating ways to spend time and recognize your importance in their life, and in ways that make you feel worthy- ground yourself in it and use it to cultivate self-compassion and self-love.
Keep your mind and heart open to create love that you always wanted.
Also talk about expectations and what ya'll want.
Open communication allows you to decipher coded speech and body language of love becoming a familiar enemy.
Music I'm Enjoying
Gil Scott-Heron
Book I'm Reading
Games Criminals Play by Bud Allen & Diana Bosta
Dad Joke
What's better than roses on a piano?
Tulips on my organ.
Next week we will discuss question 3-how their upbringing influenced their life's successes and failures.
To all the Father's wondering HOW THE FUCK DO I DO THIS?
My advice is "Just don't pull out!"
2 Nice To Handle
Art from the movie Casino.
The thought used to be "something ain't right." Now you understand it all.
A damaged woman thinks she's more of a man than a tender, kind, nice guy working to give her everything. And if her man ain't beating her body, pussy and mind she thinks she can fuck him over.
Warning! If she presents your doubts or dislikes as insecurity, the relationship has a problem bigger than your dick can solve. That’s a trick men use when trying to dig deeper than memories of his ladies lost love.
Your secure enough to know your truth and identify a solution but she wants to work on ways to continue and only seem different. Men give chances to correct, but when we are wronged, we willingly become the problem that can't be solved. We are conscious of every flaw and feeling. That's why we can return from war to provide, love gentle, and fuck hard to remind why you wanted us.
Everyone knows the saying “Nice guys finish last. Or every girl wants a bad boy. “
The real lesson is nice guys put their happiness first. They show restraint because they want to be a good man to their woman and family they represent. Nice guys give their woman what she wants, and he wants the same without headache or hurtful challenge.
What would you do Scenario:
Your woman works with a guy, who seems like he's not a threat. They are at an event together and get food that comes with one fork. Instead of walking to get another, she offers him a bite from hers.
When you discuss your disapproval, and for her not to do that again, she says, he didn’t’ use his lips, or some bullshit, pointing to the fact that no saliva was swapped.
You repeat that you didn't like it and for her not to do it again-all in the tone of a calm nice guy, who shouldn't have to yell or be mean to get his point across- especially to his woman. Because BITCH-A REAL MAN DON'T SHARE HIS WOMAN.
She stares at you, to see how serious you are. Looking to see if she can take it as a joke because you're nice enough not to yell or abuse her. Instead of realizing you are man enough to control your rage and treat her like the woman he loves, without allowing hateful rage to cloud his judgement. A behavior she's seen you purposely use to ruin relationships.
And her apology "don’t look at me like that!" Because you look upset by her challenge.
What's a Man to do when his peace is being fucked with?
We take note of who’s the threat-real or pretend. Tough guys always show respect, because they understand the point of no return that comes with violence.
The drama nation we live in makes people believe- If it ain't filled with drama or abuse it's not real love.
Being a Nice Guy. A Gentleman. A Kind Man is harder than loving someone.
A man wants it all his way and usually gets it while alone. So, when he shares his peace, his mind, his, strength, his fears and it's used at any time to help less or weaken him, and he doesn't kill over it, be careful... He's remembering how nice it was to be selfish, which is what the world considers A bad man.
Music I'm Enjoying
Vince Staples album (Dark Times)
Duckworth album (American F*uckboy)
Books I'm Reading
Re-reading NIGGER, by Dick Gregory
Dad Joke
What does the preacher's daughter say when she has sex with the heathen before married?
Holy moly. Oh' my God, what is this spirit I feel in me?
To all the Father's wondering HOW THE FUCK DO I DO THIS?
My advice is "Just don't pull out!"
DUAL
Art by Bruce Timm
YOU ARE MORE.
More than your fears.
Let it out. If you only cry through tattoo tears, you're holding onto abuse. Afraid to let go because you don't want to seem weak and wounded.
LESS DISCIPLINE MORE LOVE.
Being a Father is heavyweight. We bruise, smother and crush what we cherish. Selfish conquests make ego and violence beautiful.
DONT BELIEVE ME!
Behold the sparking eye and creamy thighs of women who want more after they're satisfied. They prefer danger over comfort and stability. Why do you think they read smut books and question us about porn. They want a threat but don't understand the wreckage that comes with it. We brush off their mental fuckery to make the relationship last for the children. Until the last one is out of the house, then we lose what stopped belonging to us. The love that made us last.
FUUUUCK!
When you're cutting the weight of bad habits like showing whose better instead of how to improve, you'll get sick and feel like such a burden, you won't want to move. They say sensitive men call it depression; tough ones call it going through some shit. Enlighted ones understand, work while fixing it and don't give life and labels to anything that hinders them.
That's a wish I'm trying to live. But the only thing I've ever received from a wish was moment of silence.
No peace because I wish to resurrect dead dreams and relationships that seem better discreet. Ones gone but celebrated through spirits. Seeing shapes in a bottle and hearing their voice with every swallow. Ones longed for through prayer and ones who hold space in the abyss you avoid.
Hold on to the love children see and feel beyond the hostility and noise.
To all the Father's wondering HOW THE FUCK DO I DO THIS?
My Adivice is Just Don't pull Out!
A Quick Word
Image From Boyz N The Hood
My version of your dreams are irrelevant.
But since there is no maturity age for emotions, I will always be hurt and aggravated if you give up on yours.
And.. I love you so much I would sacrifice mine so you could live yours. Not forever though, I am not a broken man, and I don't want to love with a vengeful heart.
I have a distrust for a-lot. Especially feelings. They betray me when I think about how I'm supposed to love and discipline. Sometimes, goddamn, lord forgive me I want to beat you into submission.
Because holy shit you make some bad ass decisions. Then I remember all of mine. Even now when I allow anger to linger for lessons that turn into wars of willpower to see whose anger can last longer, whose pride has more authority.
My sanity, care, empathy, compassion, all thoughts and emotions a father are supposed to have gets drained like an hourglass. Although time never runs out or fast enough on behaviors that limit my patience.
Put me in the psych ward because I love you like crazy.
If that's the one thing you get from my discipline. I did my job as A Man. A Father. A Masculine being that can't be neutered. I'll always demand your best and want you happy. That makes me a real mother fucker from the generation admired for opening doors for their family. Who took care of their children and grands, when a hard life was more than spoiled babies could stand.
Sometimes our home feels like a ward.
Negativity makes us psychic? You know why I ask! We hold each other to task before we act. We hold each other down the way ghetto birds bring joy, and warning signs to escape. They say positivity is the way. I say reality is the escape.
I hold a dealer's pain. Punishing and pushing to provide love and security, so family can one day be saved.
I love you like crazy and for the first time I may allow myself to understand why you behave like that...Me...
Be your own. own what and who you're becoming.
Are you still a virgin? The wrong goods can spoil you for the rest. Mental stimulation is supreme, godly ejaculation. Everyone should have that I don't give a fuck in'em. It's called ambition, real living.
That's the tradition I want you to carry. Never-mind ignorant thinking, from sinners portrayed as saints because they get more attention than a fake orgasm. Make sure you seduce for real connections.
I Love You Like Crazy.
Dad Joke
What did Cinderella say to Prince Charming?“Want to see if it fits?”
Music I'm Enjoying
Greentea Peng (TELL DEM IT'S SUNNY)
Movie I Recommend
Cooley High (1975)
Books
Professional Troublemaker by Luvvie Ajayi Jones
To all the Father's wondering HOW THE FUCK DO I DO THIS?
My advice is Just Don't Pull Out!