FATHERHOOD STATE OF MIND

Nobody tells fathers this part. That loving your child can feel like watching your heart learn how to carry more weight, ache, worry, and wish for all the riches and squalor under the sun. All to keep life and love alive.

The love of deep conversation feels like a root being torn up. A mess. Messages to be deciphered. Limits pushed past comfort.

Between you and me, time is always serious. I don’t have any to waste. Make plenty of time to play. Just don’t play with me.

I watch you sometimes while you sleep, just to see your strength. Quiet strength still counts. The hardest part isn’t protecting you. It’s making you believe you have what it takes.

And never mind myself. When you’re unhappy, when life doesn’t feel right, it haunts me like a last breath I couldn’t help.

I want you better than me. Just don’t treat me like you already are.

Don’t leave. Don’t blow me off.

All I can say is this. I know how you feel. And it’s okay. Because I’m the same way. Lost and found at different times.

Our connection won’t always be strong. But I’ll always be there. Even when you don’t feel it.

Father to Father

If no one has said this to you lately, let me.

You’re not weak because you care this deeply. You’re not failing because you can’t fix everything. And you’re not distant just because your child doesn’t always know how to reach you.

Fatherhood isn’t about having answers. It’s about staying present when the questions get uncomfortable.

Your kids don’t need perfection. They need consistency.

Show up tired. Show up unsure. Just show up.

Effort lands deeper than silence ever will.

Music I’m Enjoying

YFN Lucci "ALREADY LEGEND"

Book I’m Still Reading

You Deserve to Be Rich by Rashad Bilal and Troy Millings Not just about money.

Dad Joke

I don’t pull out wisdom for free anymore. That’s how I ended up a dad in the first place.

Final Word

To all the fathers wondering HOW THE FUCK DO I DO THIS?

My advice is simple. Just don’t pull out.