Safe To Talk

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I’m not even sure “safe” is the right word. Because some people hear safe and think weak. Or worse, available to be tested.

People who push limits want to see if they have any with you. And that can push you over the edge. And when your words come out behind a snarl, the kind you see in movies right before someone gets slashed, people think you're unstable.

So, stop trying to be safe. Be useful. State your peace from the start.

Make yourself a useful listener. Try being curious instead of worrying about being safe. It may make you dangerously annoying, but it shows you are always present and willing to talk, listen, and understand. That makes you the safest man to be around.

Why This Matters

Most men think being heard means being louder, sharper, more convincing. It usually just makes people brace for distance.

Curiosity without being nosey welcomes them back, like saving a seat without asking where they’ve been.

Being safe to talk to is not about being harmless. It is about being steady. And it helps you stay dangerous.

Book I’m Reading

Project 2025

Music I’m Listening To

Eric B & Rakim Know the Ledge

Dad Joke

Why don’t I raise my voice anymore?

Because I already know how loud regret sounds.

To all the fathers wondering HOW THE FUCK DO I DO THIS?

My advice is simple: Just don’t pull out.