House of Blues: When Love turns into War
The trap house isn’t only filled with drugs. Sometimes it’s a “loving” home divided by silence and scorn.
The weight is heavy - swallowing the virtues of a relationship whole. Excitement cums from inciting arguments, when truth separates instead of motivates.
You’ve seen it. A marriage that feels like a war zone. Her smile fades. Her touch cools. Scorn becomes the only language spoken at home.
Warmth shifts to cold shoulders. You climb into bed, and she rolls over. Kids watch from the sidelines - victims trapped between crossfire, already preparing to side with their mother, right or wrong.
The man? He adopts silence, trying to absorb every wound.
But she keeps it moving. Not toward healing. Not toward him. Toward a work life she secretly adores because the man at home ain't doing it for her.
The Experiment Idea
Not all traps are made of drugs and steel bars. Some are made of resentment, silence, and the refusal to face truth. Neglect erodes a home the way addiction eats a body.
The Reflection
Where in your home has truth stopped motivating -and started dividing?
What unspoken truth, if spoken now, could save your house later?
The Experiment
This week, test your house for cracks:
Check Your Tone. Are you speaking to connect or to wound?
Break the Silence. Say what’s been swallowed. Truth delayed becomes poison.
Reset Together. Close one moment of distance with presence -eye contact, gratitude, or prayer.
Catch the Scorn. Notice when sarcasm, silence, or coldness steps in.
Name the Need. Don’t accuse, express. (“I feel shut out when…” or “I need more of…”)
Reset the Tone. End the moment with connection, a touch, a thank you, a memory worth holding.
As fathers, we don’t just raise kids. We raise the atmosphere they call home
Music I Recommend
DJ Premier & Ransom "Amazing Graces
Jason Martin, Mike & Keys "A Hit Dog Gon Holla
Book I Recommend
Dark Sons by Nikki Grimes
Dad Joke
Why do I call my wife “Wi-Fi”?Because her face, her eyes, and that ass got me feeling fully connected.
To all the Father's wondering HOW THE FUCK DO I DO THIS?
My advice is "Just don't pull out!"
