Philosophy Vs Hypocrisy
The Truth We Avoid
Most people love philosophy because it lets them sound wise. But real wisdom is measured in moments where your ego wants revenge, your pride wants to win, and your patience is strengthened by hurting people you don't belong with.
I’m a hypocrite every day I don’t set my frustrations aside and sit with my family and show they are the pride and joy of my life. I’m a hypocrite every time I give strangers my ear, my mind, and my patience to abuse until they are satisfied.
Look at: your moves and realize each one get's you close enough to forever.
Every word. Every reaction. Every moment you choose ego over letting go of things that don't matter, so you can sit alone and be right in your deceitful, angry thoughts.
That one extra smart-ass quip you just have to get off your chest, so people know you ain’t no punk. It's the reason your family moves like criminals around you.
Before your know-it-all attitude gets exposed, turn that “someday I will sit down and hear them out, or learn how to communicate with silence that doesn’t shut them out” into today.
The Behaviors That Break Us
We hide behind deep quotes. We cling to behaviors that cut the deepest ties to the people we swear we never wanted to lose. And we get mad when their imperfections don’t hide ours.
That is how a father’s empire collapses. Not from enemies. Not from strangers. But from distance inside the home.
We hate looking at how we actually behave. But we love saying how life should be as long as it feels worthy of attention. That’s the new currency.
One of the circles of life is: Your behavior reveals your intention, and your intention shapes your behavior. When you're a hypocrite, your family sees one version of you and feels another. Seeing may help them believe in the moment, but feeling guides the future.
You can’t hide what is right in front of your face unless everyone around you benefits from the facade. And the people who love you never benefit from your lies. They pay for them with life.
Philosophy is who you say you are. Hypocrisy is who you show you are.
The Lesson Every Father Learns Eventually
Philosophy without practice is entertainment. Hypocrisy without accountability is destruction. Fatherhood without self-examination and accountability ends families.
Your family sees the truth you avoid. Your kids feel the gaps you ignore. And your legacy is shaped by the behaviors you repeat, not the wisdom you quote.
Music I’m Enjoying
“?” — OutKast (from the Stankonia album)
Book I Recommend
“Letters to the Sons of Society” — Shaka Senghor
Dad Joke
Why do women love philosophers?
Because they always go deep.
Fatherhood Sign-Off
To all the fathers wondering HOW THE FUCK DO I DO THIS?
My advice is: Just Don’t Pull Out!
See you next week, gentlemen. Keep building the version of yourself your family will always respect.
